Timing is everything. Swinging too early can lead to striking out. Making a move can lead To just a first date. Reacting too fast can result to blowing things out of proportion. A friend once reminded me that most people who come into our lives usually just stay for a season. Whether that season lasts for a month or a person's lifetime the time, is inevitable. Perhaps this is the reason why somefind it difficult to begin a deep and intimate relationship with another person. Though it may be hard to open up to another individual it is important to recognize thatthough we may look different on the outside we are not that much different within.Each person has had their fair share of hurt, humiliation, and disappointments. And if not, will come across those bumps. Therefore, it is important that each individual puts a reasonable effort in creating a firm solid relationship, even if it requires you to put your guard and pride down. Yes, there will be times when you will find yourself frustrated and disappointed with the other party. When packages like these, whether big or small, coming knocking at your door handle them with the care. And remember that no one is perfect.Yes, it will hurt. It will hurt so muchthat you may find it difficult to trust that person again and even more, hard to open up to the next person that pays a visit to the crazy beautiful life of yours. Regardless of how painful it may be it is important to realize that a lack of trust and the holding back of emotionsfeelings can and, eventually will push a person away; whether you like it or not. So, you ask what can I do to deal with the fear of heartache and still feel comfortable letting a person in? My advice to you is this, be cautious but still be open-minded and willing. Trust all but, armor yourself with courage, strength, and patience. Courage to expect the disappointments. Courage to be comfortable to wear your heart on your sleeve.The strength to overcome the disappointments and realize everything will be ok in the end. Keep in mind that if you aren't ok, then you certainly haven't seen the light of the sun at the end of the tunnel. And last but definitely not least, is patience. Patience is a necessary ingredient in creating A strong and healthy relationship. Patience to allow the other person to make mistakes here and there, with the knowledge that you yourself have screwed up before patience to understand that it isn't always easy for people to open up, perhaps due to the many obstacles they have endured. So to conclude to these thoughts.. Expect for the worst but, still hope for the best. Live like you will never be able to see the ones you love again. Love how you dream to be loved. And, give as much to others as you want people to give to you,whether it is time, patience, faith, or respect. Live. Love.Be
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