Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Enduring the rough times

It is the year 2009. Though it is just beginning there have been drastic changes in the American society, from the leadership of presidency to the downfall of our economy. The change of society has their pros and cons. However, in regards to the economy it has had nothing but negative effects. It has affected everyone in some way, including those who are not employed.
On Sunday, March 8, 2009, Fox News released an article, “Time Tough for Recession’s Walking Wounded.” The article discussed the effects that several employees have suffered due to the downfall of the economy. More and more employers are being laid off due to not enough funds from the company to pay them. This time of desperation has affected not only the employed but also the unemployed. Families are finding it more difficult to get by and provide for their family. The definition of sacrifice has changed. People now have to sacrifice things they like to do for fun. The number of trips to the movie theatres are starting to decrease due to the price of the tickets. In the article one man stated that he has,” quit traveling to see his daughter and grandchild in Las Vegas. He’s stopped seeing movies and eating out.” This is an example of the unemployed being affected by the downfall of the economy. Budgeting has become more vital than ever. Fox news reported that, “More than 4.5 million workers last year depended at least partly on variable pay, which includes tips and commissions, according to Labor Department figures. Meanwhile, the number of workers forced into part-time instead of full-time work soared 65 percent in the past year.”
Thankfully, the poor economy has not effected my family and I too much. However, there are several people that I know that have been greatly affected by this. During the summer of 2008, a close friend of mine had her house taken back by the government. It was a very hard time for her and her family because it happened so suddenly. It is unfortunate how things like these happen but God continues to provide. It may not always be easy, in fact, dealing with money is probably one of the most challenging struggles that a person may go through, but it is possible to overcome.
Romans 5:3-5, “but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.”

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Untouched and Intact

Cherish every single moment you have with them, even the silly moments.
Take your time when taking long walks. Walk side by side even if that means slowing or hurrying your space.
Learn to compromise.
Relationships are not easy. I repeat, relationships are not easy.
Love one another through even the worst times.
Respect each other’s feelings, morals, and values.
Make time for each other even if it means taking some time away from your friends.
Under no circumstance is it okay, to cheat on someone.
Always keep your heart guarded, but know when to let them in.
Pride and ego are things that we as humans struggle with but regardless of this fact never let it get the best of you.
Because in the end you will only hurt the both of you.
Realize that people can and do change whether you may approve of it or not.
It is impossible for relationships to be successful if both parties are not willing to put in the same effort.
Remember that in order to be a boyfriend/girlfriend you must first know how to be a friend.
The longer you are with a person the harder it may be to love them. [Yes, believe it or not love is more than a feeling. It’s what’s left when being in love fades.]
This is true due to the fact that you’ve been together for so long they know that you will always love them even if they do hurt you.
Be careful when you do this because taking a person for granted is one thing no one should ever do.
I pray that you will never realize what you have until it’s gone.
Loving someone requires risking getting your heart broken.
You may ask yourself, than why is it worth it? Good question.
Love is beautiful but also very painful at times.
When you’re half way out the door you’re going to look back at all the memories you had together and wonder, “where did we go wrong?”
If you did your best at loving that person you hopefully won’t go down this path but if you do know that you did nothing wrong. It wasn’t your fault.
You can only do so much for another person.
Be assertive on who you invest your time, energy, and love with.
Above all remember, that we all yearn to be loved. So love as you would have others love you.

Live. Love. Be

Timing is everything. Swinging too early can lead to striking out. Making a move can lead To just a first date. Reacting too fast can result to blowing things out of proportion. A friend once reminded me that most people who come into our lives usually just stay for a season. Whether that season lasts for a month or a person's lifetime the time, is inevitable. Perhaps this is the reason why somefind it difficult to begin a deep and intimate relationship with another person. Though it may be hard to open up to another individual it is important to recognize thatthough we may look different on the outside we are not that much different within.Each person has had their fair share of hurt, humiliation, and disappointments. And if not, will come across those bumps. Therefore, it is important that each individual puts a reasonable effort in creating a firm solid relationship, even if it requires you to put your guard and pride down. Yes, there will be times when you will find yourself frustrated and disappointed with the other party. When packages like these, whether big or small, coming knocking at your door handle them with the care. And remember that no one is perfect.Yes, it will hurt. It will hurt so muchthat you may find it difficult to trust that person again and even more, hard to open up to the next person that pays a visit to the crazy beautiful life of yours. Regardless of how painful it may be it is important to realize that a lack of trust and the holding back of emotionsfeelings can and, eventually will push a person away; whether you like it or not. So, you ask what can I do to deal with the fear of heartache and still feel comfortable letting a person in? My advice to you is this, be cautious but still be open-minded and willing. Trust all but, armor yourself with courage, strength, and patience. Courage to expect the disappointments. Courage to be comfortable to wear your heart on your sleeve.The strength to overcome the disappointments and realize everything will be ok in the end. Keep in mind that if you aren't ok, then you certainly haven't seen the light of the sun at the end of the tunnel. And last but definitely not least, is patience. Patience is a necessary ingredient in creating A strong and healthy relationship. Patience to allow the other person to make mistakes here and there, with the knowledge that you yourself have screwed up before patience to understand that it isn't always easy for people to open up, perhaps due to the many obstacles they have endured. So to conclude to these thoughts.. Expect for the worst but, still hope for the best. Live like you will never be able to see the ones you love again. Love how you dream to be loved. And, give as much to others as you want people to give to you,whether it is time, patience, faith, or respect. Live. Love.Be

How To: Have a Successful Date- special segment for men. (Yearbook Production Class)

Before I begin explaining the process of creating a perfect date I would like to explain something within the title. No date is going to be 100% perfect. However, that does not mean that the way you plan things cannot be 100% perfect in your mind. I thought that I should add this precaution so that in the future I do not get accused of someone’s “perfect date” being flawless. Now moving on to the bigger picture. There is no denying that each person ponders about what events would take place on his or her perfect date. Men, with this said I will now illustrate the steps of wooing that girl, who you will be thinking about while reading this article. [;

STEP 1: Decide who you want to share this special time with. Yes, this does me that you have to choose only one girl from that list of yours. I repeat, ONE. Be wise in the decision you make because you are the one who is going to be spending the money. So for the sake of both of you make your time together worthwhile.

STEP 2: When deciding what events you would like to have take place on this date there is a couple of things you should keep in mind. The first thing is the woman’s likes and dislikes. For example, if a girl does not enjoy watching sports than do not take her to a sporting event. Yes, it would be a fun experience for a guy like yourself but bottom line is you are the one trying to make her happy. Save that those tickets to go with the guys. The second thing that you should keep in mind is the weather. I know its a simple thought but it’s one that is too often not considered. Now that you have taken these two precautions decide what kind of things your woman would enjoy. Ideas to consider: a picnic, a nice dinner followed by a walk on the beach, a trip to Disneyland. These are just a few things that would possibly amaze your lady. However, with this said plan something that will also be fun for you.

STEP 3: Now that you have finally gotten the plans together you are ready for the big day. Well maybe not fully ready but somewhat confident about the date than when you first started planning. First things first. Make sure your personal hygiene is at its best.

STEP 4: Step three is just as important as step four so read carefully. MAKE SURE YOU ARE ON TIME. I cannot stress how important that is. No woman wants an irresponsible man. Men forewarning: your lady may not be ready on time. You may be thinking, “Well then how is it fine for them to be late and not us?” To cut to the chase: that is simply beyond the point.

(Optional) STEP 5: If you bring flowers for your lady you will get extra kudos. This is not something that you have to do but I am just throwing it out there.

STEP 6: Open her car door.

STEP 7: Whatever you have planned to do that night whether it is dinner, movies, bowling, etc., be prepared to pay. There will be times when she will offer to pay (if you get a cool girl that is). You can let her pay every now and then but never ever take advantage of such an act of kindness.

STEP 8: While on your date make sure to not text or answer phone calls unless it is extremely necessary.

STEP 9: Compliment her every now and then. Just make sure not to excessively do so. You want to flatter her not scare her.

STEP 10: It is that time that you dread. The date slowly comes to an end. When dropping her off. (Optional: walk over to her side of the car and open her door. This will get you extra kudos points.) Walk her to her door. Now, you may be thinking: should I kiss her? Honestly, the call is all yours. If you feel like the night went well and she was not giving you awkward vibes then I would say go for it! But if a part of you feels like she was giving you weird vibes then I would say refrain from the kiss.

STEP 11: You can now relax. You accomplished what most men do not feel like that cannot do. Planned a successful date!

STEP 12: Depending on how things went, you have permission to plan another date. Good luck, gentlemen! (;

Monday, March 9, 2009

how to: make a tie dye shirt

How to make a tie-dye t-shirt:

Things needed:
-a t-shirt of any color preferably white
-powder tie-dye mix (located in)
-a large bowl of warm water
-a teaspoon of salt
-rubber gloves

1. Get the bowl of warm water and add a teaspoon of salt.
2. Pour the tie-dye powder and mix it in the bowl.
3. Twist the shirt and tie knots in them using the rubber bands. (The more knots you have the more designs you will have.)
4. Get the shirt and dip it in the bowl or, you can pour the dye with the spoon to the different areas of the shirt. To avoid getting your hands stained with the dye use the rubber gloves when doing this step.
5. Let the dye sit for the designated amount of time written on the dye packet.
6. Next, remove the rubber bands from the shirt.
7. Rinse the dye with water until there is no longer any dye mixed with the water.
8. Then, put it in the washer.
9. You can either let it air dry or stick it in the dryer.
10. Finally, enjoy your home made tie dye shirt!

Monday, March 2, 2009

just keep swimming?

Just when you think that things could not get more ironic. God just hands you a good dose of irony. It is amazing how some of the most beautiful things come at the least expected times. It is even more of a kick when the timing isn’t always the best. But then again who is to say when the time to act is the “perfect time.” Because in all reality there is no such thing as there being a perfect time. We never know what God has in store for us. I mean one day you can be thinking yourself screw guys/girls they are all the same. They are all inconsiderate and heartless (not to sound “emo”). But next thing you know you’re looking into the eyes of someone who just may be an exception to that rule. Someone who respects you and actually enjoys spending time with you. Someone who likes making you happy and does it because they simply want to, not because they feel like they have to. Someone who can bring a different kind of smile on your face.
I have come to the conclusion that God certainly is the best entertainer of my time. Entertainer, in the sense that there is never a day that goes by in which I can only imagine the possibilities of the days ahead. I wish that I could fully surrender everything God without doubting His plans. Gosh, if it were only that easy. But then again if it were not for moments of sadness and disappointments I would not know what true happiness really is. It is a bittersweet concept. Bitter that we can’t always have what we want and sweet because God always has reason for everything. We may not know right away what His reasons are but in due time He reveals it to us.
With this said, I am uncertain if I should just keep swimming or just swim back to shore..

"Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything." James 1:2-4